Nov 16, 10:48 PM
One of the universal truths that impede the quest for happiness in love is that our desires often overshoot our means: Many of us want someone who we cannot have. Falling in love with your idea of someone instead of who he actually is remains a great pitfall of the game of love. The following 25 suggestions are based in practicality.
Get out your pen and pencil:
1. Have a sense of humor.
Men like jokes and any brand of funny goings-on. Being able to tell a good joke is one thing, but the willingness to clown around or even be the butt of a joke shows a sense of security about yourself that can also be very attractive. Having a sense of humor will etch one of his labels for you in his mind: Fun.
2. But don’t turn into the “Funny Guy”.
Be fun, but be able to reign it in when appropriate. Margaret Cho or Rosie O’Donnell routines can be taken as a sign of immaturity.
3. Have great sex.
A man is built straight down the middle: brains, heart, stomach and “Mr. Happy”. And the two most copacetic of the four central organs are the heart and below-the-belt. You can win his allegiance and soften his heart by keeping “Mr. Happy”, well, happy.
4. Be willing to cook.
The adage goes that the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach, and it’s still true today. Make an effort to learn what he likes. Even if it may be specially prepared seafood or even some exotic dish from Brazil or Scandinavia. He will be delighted by the gastronomical care.
5. Let him have space.
If he feels some sense of impingement on his freedom from the intensity of a relationship, it’s often that he may still have some more emotional growing to do anyway. Chances are, he will see that Freedom Road is usually a myth and will come back to the place where he never knew he had it so good: You.
6. Keep in shape.
A healthy and healthy-looking chassis means that you care about yourself and you respect the gifts of the body. He’ll admire you for it, his hormones will swirl and his ego will be stroked by being seen with you.
7. Share his interests.
Being open to what he wants to do and taking a sincere interest in his hobbies and pastimes will endear him to you. Even if you could care less about golf or tennis, give it a shot for his sake, for your sake if you want to find a way into his heart.